Friday, October 2

love where you live: explore your neighborhood

In my introduction for this series, I mentioned that I've lived in a few different parts of Virginia, from the very rural subdivision I grew up in, to a bustling college town, to my current cozy townhouse complex on the quiet side of a small Appalachian town. I think that a big part of my well-being, no matter where I've lived, has been the sense that I am part of a neighborhood.


Growing up, I had a strong sense of neighborhood. My parents were some of the first homeowners in our subdivision, which began when the developers bought a farm and parceled it out. For a young family, that situation provided the best of both worlds: my parents were able to plant a garden and orchard and enjoy the privacy that came with owning a large piece of land, but we also had neighbors who were friendly and helpful in times of need, like when the road needed to be plowed in the winter. Our next door neighbors had two children, and the three of us were stair-step kids - they were one and two years old when I was born - so we were constantly playing outside together, building treehouses, riding our bicycles, and Rollerblading (it was the '90s, after all).



In college, I lived in several different neighborhoods within my college town. I loved being within walking distance of restaurants, shops, libraries, and my church, and always felt safe and confident walking on crowded sidewalks. When I missed the country, I knew exactly which roads would take me to rolling hills and tree-lined paths.






We live in our townhouse more out of convenience than anything else - another teacher in my department was getting married the same summer as Mr. Q and I, and she was moving away. Her townhouse right behind the school seemed too good to pass up - we knew we would be renting for a while in order to save up enough money to buy our own home, so why not rent in a convenient spot? Being so close to work for the past four has been awesome - I'm able to stay at school until my daily tasks are finished without dreading a long commute, I'm able to attend my students' sporting events and performances often, and best of all, I probably get to sleep in the latest of anyone on the faculty. The downside of our neighborhood is since these are rental properties, there tends to be a lot of turnover - it seems that just as we get to know one of our neighbors, they move away. I really look forward to building close relationships with neighbors when we move into our own home at last.


Aside from the convenience, when I stop to think about it, I can actually think of many perks of my current neighborhood. Within walking distance, there is a lovely park with a pond where my students like to go fishing, wooded walking trails, a Mexican restaurant where the waiters automatically bring my Diet Coke, the YMCA where I enjoy taking yoga and spin classes, and a couple of fast food restaurants for when I'm feeling lazy. Expanding my definition of "neighborhood" a bit further, there's the church Mr. Q's parents attend, a public swimming pool, a bakery, a thrift store that always holds some interesting finds, and a mountaintop with the best view around. My neighbors might change often, but that's an opportunity to build new friendships, and since our townhouse is easy to find, it's great for entertaining small groups of guests. There are positive aspects to every neighborhood, but first we have to get outside of our comfort zones and go exploring!


Thursday, October 1

Introducing 31 Days to Love Where You Live


I've lived in three places in my life. I grew up in Bedford, a very rural Central Virginia county best known for losing more men per capita in the 1944 D-Day invasion than any other American community. Today, I can't guarantee, but feel relatively sure there are more cows than people there. It was a safe, serene place to grow up, but I longed  the opportunity to do more things and meet more people. In high school, I started daydreaming about moving to New York City after college - it would be a complete 180-degree transformation for my life. When I imagined replacing my daily views of dairy farms and dilapidated barns with skyscrapers and crowds, it was like the credits of a sitcom - country girl quirkily takes the big city, grinning out the taxi window at the future.

I attended college in the happiest city in America, where I got totally spoiled by having places to go and people to see every day of the week, surrounded by beautiful architecture and landscapes. Charlottesville isn't a big city by any means, but was a perfect place to attend college - there's a cute downtown area, quality art museums and theaters, and plenty of international restaurants, and I got involved with volunteering in a low-income housing development, which deepened my ties to the community. I majored in English and education, all the while keeping my New York City dream in the back of my mind - I'd teach by day, write by night, and explore the city every chance I got. 

Then, my father died, and I couldn't imagine leaving my now-widowed mother, my friends who were beginning to marry and have children of their own, or the boyfriend who had stood beside me through my greatest loss even though our relationship was a very new one at the time. Family - not necessarily my blood relatives, but the family I'd gathered together for myself - became the most important thing in my life. I said so long to my New York City dream and told a very kind man from the New York City Department of Education that I'd made other plans. When I graduated from college, I moved back home and got a job teaching in the town where Mr. Q grew up. When I married Mr. Q, I moved with him into a cute townhouse right behind the school. His hometown is famous for having been the seat of "the wettest county in the world" during Prohibition in the 1920's. Our townhouse is adorable, but for most of the four years we've lived here, it's felt temporary - I hesitated to even hang anything on the walls because we always planned to move into our own house, our "real" house. Teaching is not a glamorous job, and living in a small town can start to feel claustrophobic - I can't go to the grocery store without seeing someone I know. Every now and then, I would feel like I'd given something up - some other life - and I'd wonder if I'd made the right choice about where to live.

I recently realized that something had changed. We've recently begun house hunting - I mean in-person, with a bona fide real estate agent, not just clicking on links on Zillow. When we got back from our first excursion - which was great - I found myself wanting to cry.

I'd fallen in love with where I live when I wasn't paying attention. What I've finally realized is that home isn't a place. It isn't a list of must-have features or a perfect-looking Pinterest board. It's something that happens in the heart. I'm looking forward to the day that Mr. Q and I realize that we've found the just-right house in the just-right neighborhood, but it's not going to be a home until it fits our family and friends, our hobbies and interests, our lives.

This month, I'm taking on my first 31 Days series here at Beyond the Aisle. I've wanted to do something similar for years, and I've had this topic in mind for a while. I realized - after that little cry for our sweet townhouse - that the time hasn't been right until now. This October, I'm going to be spending 31 Days writing about a myriad of ways to love where you live. Even if it's not what you envisioned as a kid. Even if it's not your "forever" home. Ways to love where you live right now. It's not the first time someone's taken on this topic for a 31 Days series, but I'm hoping to put my own unique spin on this idea that is close to my heart.

This series is for you if you've ever felt restless in your home or neighborhood. It's for you if you've ever felt like there must be something more out there. It's for you if you're tired of waiting for the kind of happiness you've dreamed of. I want to help you fall in love with where you live, right now.

Here's my writing plan for October - you can come back to this post to follow along!

Day 1 - Introduction
Day 7 - Create "hygge" in your home
Day 8 - Eat local and fresh
Day 9 - Enjoy local music
Day 10 - Play photographer for a day
Day 13 - Get a local energy boost
Day 14 - Unique local home decor
Day 15 - Eat local cuisine
Day 16 - Enjoy local theatre
Day 17 - Play college student for a day
Day 20 - Get fit in the great outdoors
Day 21 - Bring your dreams home
Day 22 - Explore local sips
Day 23 - Keep it weird
Day 24 - Explore local history
Day 27 - Support your home team
Day 28 - Bring your travels home
Day 29 - Exotic food just around the corner
Day 30 - Enjoy your local art scene
Day 31 - Celebrate the seasons at home



Wednesday, September 30

literary junkies - september


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1. What are you reading right now? Tell us about it.

I just finished reading The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood. I've seen it on so many lists of must-read books for science fiction fans, feminists, and just readers in general, and Banned Books Week seemed like a great time to finally read it since it's #88 on the ALA's list of most frequently challenged and banned books in the last decade. For those of you who haven't read it, The Handmaid's Tale takes place in an alternative present in which, following several nuclear disasters and a drop in fertility, our government has been assassinated and replaced by an extremist Christian group called the Sons of Jacob. In the new Republic of Gilead, women are treated as property and divided into the ranks of Wives (the most coveted position, reserved for women who have never been divorced or otherwise sullied), Marthas (basically maids), and Handmaids (whose only role is to bear powerful men's children). I've never read a dystopian novel that wasn't YA, so it was interesting to consider how an oppressive, conservative regime would monitor and control the parts of life that aren't always appropriate for YA to address! I kept thinking about a memoir I read earlier this year, Reading Lolita in Tehran, which was about the Cultural Revolution in Iran. Though The Handmaid's Tale is fiction, I think Atwood's gift is in writing about something that is plausible - particularly with some of the conversations about marriage, religious freedom, and women's reproductive rights that are currently taking place in our country.

2. If you were a writer, what kind of books would you write?

Definitely YA! I think that even if I wasn't a middle school English teacher, I would still read young adult literature. I am a big believer in the mantra that "children learn what they live" and I think that our characters are defined by what happens to us during adolescence and how we react to it. I do enjoy writing fiction in my free time, and my writing tends to fall into the fantasy category - I love introducing an element of magic into an otherwise realistic setting. Unfortunately, I'm way better at making playlists, inspirational Pinterest boards, and elaborate family trees than I am actually finishing the stories in my head.

3. Are there any favorite books you like to go back to when the weather starts cooling down?

The Harry Potter series definitely feel like fall and winter books to me, even though they cover the span of a whole school year. I also like to read a little Gothic literature around Halloween - Jane Eyre, The Picture of Dorian Gray, or something by Edgar Allan Poe. It's the best time of year to start teaching a short story unit, too!

4. If you could have a chat with any author, past or present, who would it be and why?

I'm going to be the stereotypical English major here and say Shakespeare - after all, he was responsible for many of the words and phrases we use in English today, and his plays and sonnets are still captivating. I'd love to be able to actually get answers to all of the questions scholars have about his life.

5. What book are you looking forward to reading this fall?

I'm getting ready to start reading Jen Hatmaker's For the Love for Booklook Bloggers. My September Scholastic order arrived today, so I've got The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian, Unlikely Warrior: a Jewish Soldier in Hitler's Army, Seraphina, and Out from Boneville to read before I add them to my classroom shelves (hooray for bonus points!) I can't wait for the next book in Marissa Meyer's Lunar Chronicles series, Winter, which comes out November 10th. And I'm sure I'll be diving into my next book in the Outlander series, Drums of Autumn, before too long - I mean, autumn is right there in the name.


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My September [Fab] Favorites

My September [Fab] Favorites

My September [Fab] Favorites


1. The Mindy Project - I got Hulu. For Mindy Kaling. And I have no regrets. So far there are only two episodes in the new season, but they've been amazing - the first episode flipped between Danny's trip to meet Mindy's parents in India and Mindy's It's a Wonderful Life style vision of her life without Danny as her boyfriend. In the second episode, Leo Castellano had the most New York City birth of any TV baby ever. 

2. Salted Caramel Frappucino - It's not quite cold enough for the PSL around these parts, so this has been my go-to fancy drink. I'm also just going through a general salted caramel craving phase - gelato, candy, what have you, it's probably actually a sodium deficiency or something but I can't get enough.

3. Fall sweaters - Sweaters are my favorite - I'm so ready for cool temperatures just so I can wear my new ones! I ordered this striped Flamingo Urban cardigan from Groopdealz - I've seen it on some other daily deal sites, too, and decided I needed to snap it up. My other favorite is this Old Navy marled dolman - hallelujah for being able to order petite sizes online.

4. Wine Country collection at Bath and Body Works - I like subtle scents and most of the ones in this collection fit the bill. Black Cherry Merlot and Champagne Vineyard Kiss are my favorite soaps, and the Sundrenched Vineyard candle smells amazing.

5. Gold foil tech wallpapers - Y'all, it's the little things in life that truly bring us joy, and one of my favorite little things is changing the wallpaper on my computers and phone every month. I finally had the genius revelation that I can have different patterns on my phone's lock screen and wallpaper - so of course I went with gold foil designs for both.

6. All things Star Wars, including my new earrings from Zulily - I'm not sure how I feel about Star Wars being a cool thing to like now (my 11-year-old self who was scared to read Young Jedi Knights on the school bus is definitely jealous of the girls who get to wear whole Star Wars outfits in public now), but I'm definitely reaping the benefits. And yes, I bought two pairs of earrings for the sole purpose of wearing one of each so that C3-PO and R2-D2 can be together forever.

Monday, September 28

clicks of note: i won't only love you when you're winning...

get your week off to a colorful start...
LISTEN.
  • Matt Nathanson's new album comes out this Friday, and it includes a song called "Bill Murray" that is surprisingly lovely. Wait, it's Matt Nathanson, why am I surprised? Linking up with Musical Mondays at My So-Called Chaos.

SWOON.

SMILE.

FLASHBACK.
WEEKLY ROUND-UP at HIGH-HEELED LOVE

Sunday, September 27

Thursday, September 24

who to follow on instagram: september 2015

I'm going to let y'all in on a little secret - my autumn is even more exciting than usual this year because Mr. Q and I are house hunting. I find myself following a lot of home bloggers on Instagram for inspiration these days, and clicking the heart on all kinds of cozy fall images! Here are a few accounts you need to be following right now.


anacvitanovic - the blogger behind Flavor of Fashion uses Instagram to give readers a peek behind the scenes.

lifeonvirginiastreet - Sarah Stewart shares shots of her own lovely home, projects she's working on for her blog, and recommendations for the sweetest home decor Instagram feeds to follow!


fresh_exchange - Megan and Mike Gilger's IG feed is all about their daily life - blog projects, travel, and their favorite places around Raleigh. Like their blog, their photography style is simple and laid-back.

taylorsterling - The Glitter Guide's founder shares sneak peeks of home tours, slices of daily life, and snaps of her cute kiddo.


lizlovegrowswild - Home decor blogger Liz Fourez shares styling inspiration, DIY decor and food projects.

roomsforrent - Bre Doucette's IG feed is full of beautiful shots of her farmhouse-style home - my favorite interior decorating style!



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Wednesday, September 23

wedding wednesday: vineyard inspired

Happy first day of autumn, everyone! I'm enjoying watching the first signs of fall color appear here in the Blue Ridge Mountains and looking forward to my community's wine festival this weekend - which has my imagination turning today toward the perfect vineyard wedding - a plum color palette, dahlias, roses, and other fall flowers, and classic nods to a winery setting.


I love the sweet ruffle on this plum bridesmaids' dress.




de la Barra Photography via Design Sponge | Vitalic Photo via The Every Last Detail

How fun (and easy) is this cork monogram?


An apple basket makes the perfect vessel for an autumn dahlia centerpiece.





Have you ever been to a vineyard wedding? How does your community welcome fall?